Most people don't like change. It goes against the grain. Change can be as difficult as trying to write with the other hand, or as simple as sleeping on the other side of the bed. I've often wondered what it would be like to get up on the bathroom side of our bedroom. I should try it. After all, I'm the one who gets up twice a night.
I started blogging in July of 2013. I had been reading about the benefits of writing a journal each morning. A short paragraph regarding my person, who I wanted to be, and what I valued. It become somewhat popular. I'm open (for the most part) and honest, and others enjoyed knowing they weren't alone with their struggles.
But lately I've been questioning my passion, my happiness. I've asked myself 5 simple questions:
1) What am I passionate about?
2) Am I good at my passion?
3) What am I most known for?
4) What do others want to know about me?
5) What do others seek my advice concerning?
My goal was to find what gets me out of bed in the morning. Sure, I want to wake up early without hating myself, but what would I wake up for if there were nothing to hate?
It's almost like the saying "find something you love to do and you'll never work again".
I even asked others for help with my answers. I wanted to know what they saw in me. Did it line up with who I think I am, or what I'm doing.
I'm talented, but I wasn't sure where my talent flourished. I'm good at writing and public relations. I'm a social butterfly.
What ground do those talents need to planted in so they flourishes? So I flourish?.
The sad thing is as much as I love this blog - Waking Up Early Without Hating Yourself - it's not this blog. I like it, and I sometimes love it, and I'm sometimes great at it, and I'm known for it, but I'm not passionate about it all day every day.
The blog - yes. The topic - no.
It's almost always been about self-evaluation. It's been about getting results, loving people, helping them deal with life. And I truly love people. Sometimes I let their actions fog up my view but I'm working on that. I want to care more about the person and less about their actions.
But I need an avenue for that. People aren't willing to go against the grain. Try clapping with your left hand on top. I tried it once, and kept trying it just to see if I could. Now clapping with my right hand on top is awkward.
That's change. That's what people don't like. There has to be an incentive. What's the benefit of writing or clapping with my other hand? Well, nothing really. Not in that aspect.
But what's the benefit of being the nicest employee at Dunkin Donuts?
What's the benefit of showing love those who don't seem to love you?
The benefit is it will always overcome.
We don't care about how people look. We don't care how many piercings they have, or how many tattoos are on their arms, or the color of their hair.
If they show us love we'll overlook anything. That's the one thing every human has in common - we all want to be loved. We want to feel good on the inside, and we're drawn to anything that causes that.
You can't change that about yourself. We're built that way. It's a God-given addiction. It's exactly why "...the greatest of these is love" - 1 Corinthians 13:13
We were made to love people because that's what people need the most - to be loved.
Show me sincerity and I'll accept any apology. Show me remorse and I'll show you complete forgiveness.
That's what my 5 answers have brought me to.
I'm passionate about loving others. I don't have to be perfect at it, just sincere.
It's what gets me out of bed in the morning.